Here's the back story. Okay, so I work full time... some evenings and weekends some "9-5" days. I am a librarian so I work "library hours". My husband is a teacher, so he has summers off... sort of. He also teaches summer school so he works for five weeks in the summer Monday- Thursday 7:30-noon. Next week is his last week of summer school and then he will have 5 weeks off. He also coaches basketball (which he loves but that can also be time consuming). Right now he isn't coaching only teaching summer school from 7:30- noon.
I can him on my way home from work today (about 5:20ish) to make sure leftovers are okay for dinner. He says he would rather go out. I don't want to do this for a couple of reason, 1. I don't want to spend the money 2. I don't want to eat extra calories which always seems to happen when we go out 3. we will be eating out a lot over the weekend. So I bring up leftovers again.. he doesn't want it (honestly I don't either, it is leftover shrimp and I don't even like shrimp that much the first time around). So, I say I will make a turkey meatloaf and sweet potato fries. He says that sounds good. So I make dinner, it is all in the oven and his cell phone keeps ringing. Finally he answers and it is some of the guys he coaches with... they want him to come play basketball.
He gets off the phone and says to me, "I have to go play, they are begging me". I instantly become irate. I don't say anything but he knows I am pissed. He goes upstairs and changes clothes and comes back down and says, "are you mad at me?" I tell him I am and that he hurt my feelings. I worked all day (he was at home since 12:30 playing video games *I didn't say that* and I came home and made dinner). I was tired and didn't feel like cooking. I just wanted to eat leftovers so I could relax but he didn't want that so I made something else and he is leaving?!
I am so pissed. I am tired... I was hungry (ate dinner myself) and I feel like I am not appreciated. I am probably totally overreacting but I am so tired of doing all the cleaning and cooking while working so that he can go out with friends and play video games when he gets home. Don't get me wrong, my husband is an extremely hard worker and always does extra stuff (lunch duty, coaching, summer school) to make some extra money but for some reason I can't get over this. I even started crying... it really hurt my feelings.
Anyway, thanks for listening to my rant.
Hope you all have a good night!